HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF IS HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD
We are constantly struggling to “be perfect”. We abide by the law the best we can and so rightly we should. We look to be perfect at everything we do for what purpose.
This evening I challenge your thinking. I invite you see how everything was perfect to begin with, and nothing needs to be altered. I invite you to open your mind and soul to this.
The Beginning
I remember the days when I was at school and I would be asked a question by the teacher along the lines of “what is 2 x 3”. With my response being a “6, I would get a “perfect Consigno”, perfect, that is correct. Somewhere along the lines I started to think I was special and that people had an expectation of me to be perfect. This was the start of the system covering me with the invisible veil.
The above example is a true story and has happened to almost of all us. We are constantly struggling to be perfect so what happened?
The idea is installed into us. We are brought into the world having being taught that when you get things right you are “perfect” and when you get them wrong it is bad or wrong and we get a flurry of emotions pulling us from all angles.
When you look at a baby, you see someone pure. Language has not yet been installed and it constantly curious. It does whatever it wants. The baby will be not know right, wrong, perfect, special. It starts to learn these through its mother, school, TV. It begins to be conditioned into what society “expects” of him/her. What a bitch. All this time you thought you were free and now you are probably realising that you have been pre-conditioned.
You are not special
The first thing you must realise is that you are not special. The minute you see yourself as special, the unconscious separates you from all of existence. You see yourself as better or worse to others. To be unique I agree with, however to say or feel that you are special is nothing but ego and if you look deep you with find it manifesting inside.
The World is not Perfect…..WRONG
When I tell people the world is perfect people turn around and tell me how can it be when you have innocent people dying at war, hunger in Africa, aids and global warming. How can the world is perfect. Millions dying in Africa from starvation every week is not wrong. The emotions that we feel just by those bolded words about can get us in state of feeling sorry or sad about the thing and feeling that we should help in some way.
Guess what happens then. Marketing comes in and Oxfam kick in with their very cunning advertising campaigns. You see it on TV all the time. A bloated boy/girl with flies all over them. You get the commentators empathetic voice and a calm song in the background. You started feeling emotional, call the Toll free number and give your £15/$30 a month as a “token of good will” which makes you “feel good”. You see it again on your trains, shouting at you, “help me, donate”.
I say this, because I used to be one these people. I used to have a monthly direct debit coming out of my account going to some charity I had no idea about sold by someone on the street. How naïve. I was giving with the sole intent on getting something back.
The realisation only hit me after about 18 months after I originally signed up. Once I realised and my perception of the world changed, I setup my own charity where I would go lovingly with my group and feed the homeless. I would feel what it is like walking in the streets at 5am in the morning feeding the homeless in below -2 degrees. Then you truly realise the worth of touching a human soul.
I will admit it. I was also systemised. I followed the trend, always tried to fit in, until I WOKE UP. Now I choose to be in the system or out of it as I please. I enjoy both, however to think that this all that life is about is nothing but bullshit. So many of us have questions we want to answer.
So many of us decided to go back packing to china to find ourselves, when really all you have to do is have the guts to just take a look deep inside yourself. The answer is there. You will find it. It will not be easy at first, however only after the rain will you see the sunshine.
Heaven On Earth
I believe heaven is right here on earth. I experience it daily and we live in a beautiful world. Firstly you must realise that anything which creates an emotion of sorrow, neglect, happiness or anything else which makes you act or feel in a certain way has been created in you by your pre-conditioning at a young age.
This is the exact same reason that when you look newspapers and you see a headline such as “100 DIE IN WAR” or “DEBT REACHES NEW HEIGHTS” you get affected by. They are just words yet we allow ourselves to get moved and rattled by them.
What is the solution?
The first thing to do is take a look at yourself. Stop looking externally at the world and seeing the problem. The problem lies in you and guess what? For every problem there is a solution also and that lies in you too. Go deep in yourself and see what is the root cause of all these feeling you get.
HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
The world you live in is perfect
The world we live in is perfect. Nothing needs to be changed. This is a deep realisation. It’s a state of being which you can achieve through self realisation. Being in love, being peaceful in self allows you the possibility to see the world as it is.
I invite you to look at the world different.
Consigno,
Sunday 25 November 2007
Wednesday 21 November 2007
WAKE UP…..It is not about YOU!!!
In life the majority focus so much on themselves that they forget about everyone else. There is an old saying that if you help enough people get to their goals in life and enable them to self realise then you will eventually get to your goals.
I remember I used to be one of these self centred people who thought I was special. I had the focus on me and “I” all the day. I always looked at me in the situation and saw other people to be the problem until I came to many self realisations which I will not go into detail now.
What I really want to get across to you however is start waking up to the fact the only way for you to realise yourself better is to watch, observe and witness your thoughts while your judgment kicks in on others.
Take the ME ME ME focus out. It is not about you. It is this self centred attitude and separation that so many people in the world have adopted that has simply made them all forget who they are and what their purpose in life is.
True happiness lies in getting others to their goals. If you look at the biggest and best leaders in the world, this is the one single most important thing you will hear them say. See what others want, get them there and you will be sure to see them get you to where you want to be.
Wake up NOW.
Do something different, challenge your thinking.
Consigno,
I remember I used to be one of these self centred people who thought I was special. I had the focus on me and “I” all the day. I always looked at me in the situation and saw other people to be the problem until I came to many self realisations which I will not go into detail now.
What I really want to get across to you however is start waking up to the fact the only way for you to realise yourself better is to watch, observe and witness your thoughts while your judgment kicks in on others.
Take the ME ME ME focus out. It is not about you. It is this self centred attitude and separation that so many people in the world have adopted that has simply made them all forget who they are and what their purpose in life is.
True happiness lies in getting others to their goals. If you look at the biggest and best leaders in the world, this is the one single most important thing you will hear them say. See what others want, get them there and you will be sure to see them get you to where you want to be.
Wake up NOW.
Do something different, challenge your thinking.
Consigno,
Thursday 8 November 2007
Why Women Sell Their Bodies and Men Pay For Sex
In the land of Love, we accept all without judgment, however we shall be talking from a different prospective today.
What did you want to be when you grew up? A Fireman, A Heart Surgeon, a Pilot, A Vet? What did you really jump up with joy when asked the question “What did you want to be when you grew up”? Are you that person, now, if not what happened?
You are born a shining star, a flower, always on the move, curious, happy, excited and most importantly you had ambition and passion in everything you did?
Slowly but surely you started to get challenged and started to be told you cannot do this and you cannot do that. You were told from a society prospective the meaning of failure and that when you set to do something and you do not achieve it is it failure.
Your conscious started to get attacked, your unconscious started to be transformed from the teaching from our families, friends, TV, books and so on. We slowly forgot our passion and desire for our ambition as we grew older and started to settle for less or average.
The seed of “hope” was planted into our heads, and then the lottery was created. The “hope” that with $1, Euro1, £1 you could maybe, just maybe win MILLIONS.
You forgot your ambition, you gave up just a little to early. Had you just gone on that little bit longer, you would have seen the light at the end of the tunnel.
You lost your values, your integrity, self respect and your own key morals.
Women sell their bodies as it can be seen as profession and some love what they do. Some, however simply do not.
These people are the ones that have lost not hope, but have lost faith. They to once had a dream.
How many women do you honestly think at the age of five say “Daddy, I want to be a working girl”?
How many boys at the age of seven say “Mummy, I want to pay for sex or be a pimp”.
Sure, in the world of no reason and the present moment, there is nothing wrong and the question is not whether it is right or wrong, however more a case of what may have happened.
At some point in your life, you were hurt somewhere and this changed your entire perception of both men and women.
A women was once cheated by from her boyfriend and beaten around. A year later she turned into a prostitute. Why, I do not know, however somewhere along the line her thoughts towards men changed, and she became a working girl.
A guy, did not have the confidence to go and find a girlfriend, so he uses the easy method and exchanges paper for sex. This is nothing other than short term gain. In the long run both parties lose out bigtime.
Women – You need no man to tell you that you look beautiful. You do not need confirmation from anyone. When you dress up and go out and look all fantastic with your make up, do not go out to compare yourself to other women. Be yourself and enjoy yourself.
So many times I will be out and the when I start speaking to these women, I slowly get them to a place there never thought existed. That inner beauty, where the heart starts singing and the inner voice and ego is quieted down by the music of the heart.
Do not sell yourself under any circumstances. You are better than this and you know it. Look at yourself in the mirror and I always say this…..say “I LOVE YOU”.
Men – Go out there and believe that you can get any women you set your mind to and there is no need to pay for sex. Be masculine men which you are and that women love and start conversations. Do not be wiped out of existence for your mere stupidity.
Start believing in yourself. Start believing that you can do anything you set your mind too. Find your ambition and go for it whatever it takes.
Hell is not this place you disappear to where the fire burns till eternity. Hell is merely not living out your dream.
Start living your passion and do not settle for anything else.
Consigno
What did you want to be when you grew up? A Fireman, A Heart Surgeon, a Pilot, A Vet? What did you really jump up with joy when asked the question “What did you want to be when you grew up”? Are you that person, now, if not what happened?
You are born a shining star, a flower, always on the move, curious, happy, excited and most importantly you had ambition and passion in everything you did?
Slowly but surely you started to get challenged and started to be told you cannot do this and you cannot do that. You were told from a society prospective the meaning of failure and that when you set to do something and you do not achieve it is it failure.
Your conscious started to get attacked, your unconscious started to be transformed from the teaching from our families, friends, TV, books and so on. We slowly forgot our passion and desire for our ambition as we grew older and started to settle for less or average.
The seed of “hope” was planted into our heads, and then the lottery was created. The “hope” that with $1, Euro1, £1 you could maybe, just maybe win MILLIONS.
You forgot your ambition, you gave up just a little to early. Had you just gone on that little bit longer, you would have seen the light at the end of the tunnel.
You lost your values, your integrity, self respect and your own key morals.
Women sell their bodies as it can be seen as profession and some love what they do. Some, however simply do not.
These people are the ones that have lost not hope, but have lost faith. They to once had a dream.
How many women do you honestly think at the age of five say “Daddy, I want to be a working girl”?
How many boys at the age of seven say “Mummy, I want to pay for sex or be a pimp”.
Sure, in the world of no reason and the present moment, there is nothing wrong and the question is not whether it is right or wrong, however more a case of what may have happened.
At some point in your life, you were hurt somewhere and this changed your entire perception of both men and women.
A women was once cheated by from her boyfriend and beaten around. A year later she turned into a prostitute. Why, I do not know, however somewhere along the line her thoughts towards men changed, and she became a working girl.
A guy, did not have the confidence to go and find a girlfriend, so he uses the easy method and exchanges paper for sex. This is nothing other than short term gain. In the long run both parties lose out bigtime.
Women – You need no man to tell you that you look beautiful. You do not need confirmation from anyone. When you dress up and go out and look all fantastic with your make up, do not go out to compare yourself to other women. Be yourself and enjoy yourself.
So many times I will be out and the when I start speaking to these women, I slowly get them to a place there never thought existed. That inner beauty, where the heart starts singing and the inner voice and ego is quieted down by the music of the heart.
Do not sell yourself under any circumstances. You are better than this and you know it. Look at yourself in the mirror and I always say this…..say “I LOVE YOU”.
Men – Go out there and believe that you can get any women you set your mind to and there is no need to pay for sex. Be masculine men which you are and that women love and start conversations. Do not be wiped out of existence for your mere stupidity.
Start believing in yourself. Start believing that you can do anything you set your mind too. Find your ambition and go for it whatever it takes.
Hell is not this place you disappear to where the fire burns till eternity. Hell is merely not living out your dream.
Start living your passion and do not settle for anything else.
Consigno
Tuesday 6 November 2007
On Office Politics
It exists and that it. It comes with the title of work or job. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists.
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
Sunday 4 November 2007
On Love
So many relationships go by and reach a point when one or both parties turn around and say “I don’t love him/her like I used too”, “I don’t love you anymore”. Heartbreak for most, pain, and most of us have either experienced this sort of “pain” or know someone who has.
The conversation of topic for today will be on “LOVE”.
We have been raised in a society where we are taught that love is to some extend material. Love is Hollywood. Love is going to the Grand Canyon, Eifel Tower or sitting by Hollywood staring into each others eyes and saying those magical three words “I Love You”.
If you believe the above then I would recommend you don’t read the rest of the blog as I am about to shatter your dreams.
Definition of Love – To accept the way one is and the way one is not.
That’s it. Love is merely acceptance. Accept the way a person is and the way they are not. On the journey of enlightenment this is the ultimate realisation. After the stripping down of self and realising what has made you the way you are, there is a place which I find sometimes very hard to translate into words. Ultimate Bliss.
Total love for everyone around you, your family, your parents, your colleagues, trees, birds, life, the Universe.
“I don’t love you anymore”, simply means you do not love yourself. All things start from self first. You want people to respect you for example, hey start respecting yourself. You want people to love you, then hey guess what, start loving yourself.
Sure, your probably now thinking, how can I when I have been through so much in my life. How can you say this when you do not know my situation?
This is true, I probably do not know your situation, however I do not necessarily need to know. All the emotions and feelings you have experienced, guess what I have also experienced at some point in my life. I have been through the hardship and pain also. This is now in the past.
Get over it and stop dwelling on it. To hold regret, anger merely is holding you back from the love you can give to the world.
Many people go through life with the emotions of hate, anger, depression and feel that by them thinking like this it is a bad thing and they must stop the thought immediately. What wrong with this method? As you are looking to stop the thought, the thought simply gets suppressed until one day it explodes into an almighty rage.
Do not suppress you thoughts. Instead, watch them, observe them. Become a watcher to your thought, and go deep into self and see where that thought or emotion stems from. Only then once you have rooted the problem can you then control it flow and let it pass by just like the wind breezes your face without your reasoning or questioning.
Remember when you were a baby?
I do not, however that is beside the point. Do you not find that when you look at a baby who is smiling, it naturally makes you smile. When it laughs you also laugh. You see babies are not yet moulded into what society expects of them. Their love is given freely to all. A baby is pure, whole, and complete.
Give love freely. When you give a gift to someone, give it without looking or seeking for the acknowledgement and thank you in return. Give it freely.
Your parents?
So many people come to me on 1-1’s and tell me the problems they have with the father or mother. They complain that they do not like their father because he is weird or that their mother constantly complain. You have all heard the saying that when you point the finger, the thumb and the other fingers points straight back to you (covered in future articles).
Your parents are the way they are, your friends are the way they are, if there were not they would not be your parents or friends. Accept them for the way they are and this is final. Only then can you allow love to flow through you.
Go and do this now. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I LOVE ME”. No judgement or comparison. Do not love ME with ego flowing being fat, healthy, muscular, bald, beautiful eyes. Just “I LOVE ME”. No judgment, no comparison. Take a deep breathe and GIVE IT A GO NOW.
Begin your process of love now. It happens slowly but surely, and once you are there you will see why I keep drilling this into you.
Remember it starts with SELF. Love self, and then the love to others will come with ease.
Peace&Love,
Consigno
The conversation of topic for today will be on “LOVE”.
We have been raised in a society where we are taught that love is to some extend material. Love is Hollywood. Love is going to the Grand Canyon, Eifel Tower or sitting by Hollywood staring into each others eyes and saying those magical three words “I Love You”.
If you believe the above then I would recommend you don’t read the rest of the blog as I am about to shatter your dreams.
Definition of Love – To accept the way one is and the way one is not.
That’s it. Love is merely acceptance. Accept the way a person is and the way they are not. On the journey of enlightenment this is the ultimate realisation. After the stripping down of self and realising what has made you the way you are, there is a place which I find sometimes very hard to translate into words. Ultimate Bliss.
Total love for everyone around you, your family, your parents, your colleagues, trees, birds, life, the Universe.
“I don’t love you anymore”, simply means you do not love yourself. All things start from self first. You want people to respect you for example, hey start respecting yourself. You want people to love you, then hey guess what, start loving yourself.
Sure, your probably now thinking, how can I when I have been through so much in my life. How can you say this when you do not know my situation?
This is true, I probably do not know your situation, however I do not necessarily need to know. All the emotions and feelings you have experienced, guess what I have also experienced at some point in my life. I have been through the hardship and pain also. This is now in the past.
Get over it and stop dwelling on it. To hold regret, anger merely is holding you back from the love you can give to the world.
Many people go through life with the emotions of hate, anger, depression and feel that by them thinking like this it is a bad thing and they must stop the thought immediately. What wrong with this method? As you are looking to stop the thought, the thought simply gets suppressed until one day it explodes into an almighty rage.
Do not suppress you thoughts. Instead, watch them, observe them. Become a watcher to your thought, and go deep into self and see where that thought or emotion stems from. Only then once you have rooted the problem can you then control it flow and let it pass by just like the wind breezes your face without your reasoning or questioning.
Remember when you were a baby?
I do not, however that is beside the point. Do you not find that when you look at a baby who is smiling, it naturally makes you smile. When it laughs you also laugh. You see babies are not yet moulded into what society expects of them. Their love is given freely to all. A baby is pure, whole, and complete.
Give love freely. When you give a gift to someone, give it without looking or seeking for the acknowledgement and thank you in return. Give it freely.
Your parents?
So many people come to me on 1-1’s and tell me the problems they have with the father or mother. They complain that they do not like their father because he is weird or that their mother constantly complain. You have all heard the saying that when you point the finger, the thumb and the other fingers points straight back to you (covered in future articles).
Your parents are the way they are, your friends are the way they are, if there were not they would not be your parents or friends. Accept them for the way they are and this is final. Only then can you allow love to flow through you.
Go and do this now. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I LOVE ME”. No judgement or comparison. Do not love ME with ego flowing being fat, healthy, muscular, bald, beautiful eyes. Just “I LOVE ME”. No judgment, no comparison. Take a deep breathe and GIVE IT A GO NOW.
Begin your process of love now. It happens slowly but surely, and once you are there you will see why I keep drilling this into you.
Remember it starts with SELF. Love self, and then the love to others will come with ease.
Peace&Love,
Consigno
Tuesday 30 October 2007
On Integrity
So many of us go through life without living full out. You ask most old people what would be the one thing they would have done differently if they could turn back time and 9 times out of 10 the answer would be “to take more risk”.
Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.
What is it?
Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.
Why so many people lack this value?
People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.
These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.
If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.
How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.
Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.
Solution
Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?
One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.
If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.
Watch and Observe
When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.
I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.
Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.
If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.
It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?
The Assignment
For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.
Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.
Live your passion
Consigno
Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.
What is it?
Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.
Why so many people lack this value?
People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.
These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.
If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.
How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.
Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.
Solution
Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?
One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.
If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.
Watch and Observe
When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.
I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.
Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.
If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.
It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?
The Assignment
For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.
Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.
Live your passion
Consigno
Sunday 28 October 2007
On Being the Best
So many of us are looking to be the best and it is great that we make this conscious choice. It all falls apart when we look to be the best “compared” to someone or something.
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
Who Was Consigno?
My parents divorced when I was three. My father went to prison and my mother had me and my sister to look after. For a period of seven years we spent our time in woman’s refuge which I later found out from my mother that it was one of the worst experiences of her life.
Looking back me and my sister either found it fun or our mother disguised it pretty well. When I was 11, we moved out of the refuge and into permanent accommodation where my mother started a new relationship where I was abused by my mothers new partner whom I never really could get grips with calling him father.
I was a strange kid at school. Very naughty, and once where at every parents meeting the teachers would say, he has talent, he is a clever boy but he just needs to direct his energy.
I was the type of kid they called the “joker”. I would simply make everyone laugh, mimic the teachers and get in trouble for it. As long as I got the approval and the feeling of importance I thought I was going a good job. I was the school clown.
The problem kicked in when exam times were near. Everyone would simply go off and study and I would have this obligation within myself to feel I have a job to do and I had to please my fellow students and friends. Everyone learns their lesson the hard way and I did too.
I remember watching Richard Branson one day on TV and said “Mum, one day you will be proud of your son, he will be like that”. Hey I was a kid, however within this blog there will be moments which will leave you breathless…..
Do you remember when you were a kid and you had a dream? You wanted to be someone? A Fireman, A Doctor, A Police Officer, A Ballerina maybe? Well I wanted to be a Pilot. To get people from one place to another. To get people to their destination. This is what I have always been good at.
How a failure at school, the one person every other student thought would end up nowhere was the one kid who ended up going to University, completing a Masters Degree and a top UK University, speaker, a “professional” in the eyes of some and has continued to live his dream day by day. Labels which the social networked have attached to me.
Despite my education, this is not who I am and to some extend I disagree/agree with the system (see articles for further understanding).
Having been through the journey of the Ego and the transition from the belief of God to the knowing that a God exists you will find the sweetest of words within this blog.
Going from someone who used to have 2 litres of Coca Cola a day, Weekly KFC trips and a Burger King burger daily to going to someone who is in the gym 4 times a week, is awake at 5am and lives every day in gratitude.
I used to be shy with women, and within a short period of time I turned it around and starting dating some of the most beautiful women. I became the type of guy, guys would be jealous of in clubs and bars.
I used to look at those with more money than me and label and judge automatically. After my self realisations I become one who lives in gratitude, love, peace and harmony for every human soul on this planet. My salary has increased every year and the using simple concepts I became a master as some would like to call it.
Although I am not of any religious belief, I have respect for all and none. Some read my blog and tell me I am spiritual. This is not the case. I am neither spiritual or any other name which may have the potential of being marketable.
I invite you to look between the words of the articles in the blog and not to take them literally. Everything you read you will already know. Give your unconscious mind the key it has be in search for all this time.
If you have come this far in reading this, you the one the very few who is on a journey. That journey only you know, and you will reach that peak.
May you find yourself through the teaching, articles and text within this blog.
Peace&Love
Consigno
Looking back me and my sister either found it fun or our mother disguised it pretty well. When I was 11, we moved out of the refuge and into permanent accommodation where my mother started a new relationship where I was abused by my mothers new partner whom I never really could get grips with calling him father.
I was a strange kid at school. Very naughty, and once where at every parents meeting the teachers would say, he has talent, he is a clever boy but he just needs to direct his energy.
I was the type of kid they called the “joker”. I would simply make everyone laugh, mimic the teachers and get in trouble for it. As long as I got the approval and the feeling of importance I thought I was going a good job. I was the school clown.
The problem kicked in when exam times were near. Everyone would simply go off and study and I would have this obligation within myself to feel I have a job to do and I had to please my fellow students and friends. Everyone learns their lesson the hard way and I did too.
I remember watching Richard Branson one day on TV and said “Mum, one day you will be proud of your son, he will be like that”. Hey I was a kid, however within this blog there will be moments which will leave you breathless…..
Do you remember when you were a kid and you had a dream? You wanted to be someone? A Fireman, A Doctor, A Police Officer, A Ballerina maybe? Well I wanted to be a Pilot. To get people from one place to another. To get people to their destination. This is what I have always been good at.
How a failure at school, the one person every other student thought would end up nowhere was the one kid who ended up going to University, completing a Masters Degree and a top UK University, speaker, a “professional” in the eyes of some and has continued to live his dream day by day. Labels which the social networked have attached to me.
Despite my education, this is not who I am and to some extend I disagree/agree with the system (see articles for further understanding).
Having been through the journey of the Ego and the transition from the belief of God to the knowing that a God exists you will find the sweetest of words within this blog.
Going from someone who used to have 2 litres of Coca Cola a day, Weekly KFC trips and a Burger King burger daily to going to someone who is in the gym 4 times a week, is awake at 5am and lives every day in gratitude.
I used to be shy with women, and within a short period of time I turned it around and starting dating some of the most beautiful women. I became the type of guy, guys would be jealous of in clubs and bars.
I used to look at those with more money than me and label and judge automatically. After my self realisations I become one who lives in gratitude, love, peace and harmony for every human soul on this planet. My salary has increased every year and the using simple concepts I became a master as some would like to call it.
Although I am not of any religious belief, I have respect for all and none. Some read my blog and tell me I am spiritual. This is not the case. I am neither spiritual or any other name which may have the potential of being marketable.
I invite you to look between the words of the articles in the blog and not to take them literally. Everything you read you will already know. Give your unconscious mind the key it has be in search for all this time.
If you have come this far in reading this, you the one the very few who is on a journey. That journey only you know, and you will reach that peak.
May you find yourself through the teaching, articles and text within this blog.
Peace&Love
Consigno
Thursday 25 October 2007
On Commitment
I want to spend a moment to talk about Commitment. A word used every day, by our family and friends and especially in the working environment.
A word which because of the fear in failing to commit we fail to excel and push ourselves out there.
What is commitment. Merely a word with no meaning. Yes and No. In the language of God and the present moment a meaningless word, however from a social standpoint and especially a working standpoint to commit is to dedicate to a project till the end.
So many of us in life start off by saying I want to commit to losing weight for example, and then after a period of time they then start putting the pounds straight on. In this context I ask you to look to change your wording of what you commit to. To lose weight is not definitive enough, you unconscious is not playing any game here, it just knows “lose weight” which holds no meaning.
Why not reword it for yourself and commit to losing 3 stone over the next 12 months. Now this is definitive. You have told yourself the amount of weight you want to lose and by when you want to lose it. Simple. Now you can take the role of commitment more playfully and naturally.
When you have your end result set and your goal is definitive you path the way for natural commitment. The world commitment will not even be a word in your vocabulary as it will run in the background of your unconscious as sub text.
I will soon be setting up a Q&A for you all to pose your questions family, work, relationship, health, social, fear, nervousness problems situations however in the meantime if you have any questions feel free to email me and I will endeavour to answer them. All emails received will be treated with anonymity.
Go out there in the world and commit to being the best you can be. Compare yourself to no man/woman as comparison is merely your own prison.
Live your dream,
Consigno
A word which because of the fear in failing to commit we fail to excel and push ourselves out there.
What is commitment. Merely a word with no meaning. Yes and No. In the language of God and the present moment a meaningless word, however from a social standpoint and especially a working standpoint to commit is to dedicate to a project till the end.
So many of us in life start off by saying I want to commit to losing weight for example, and then after a period of time they then start putting the pounds straight on. In this context I ask you to look to change your wording of what you commit to. To lose weight is not definitive enough, you unconscious is not playing any game here, it just knows “lose weight” which holds no meaning.
Why not reword it for yourself and commit to losing 3 stone over the next 12 months. Now this is definitive. You have told yourself the amount of weight you want to lose and by when you want to lose it. Simple. Now you can take the role of commitment more playfully and naturally.
When you have your end result set and your goal is definitive you path the way for natural commitment. The world commitment will not even be a word in your vocabulary as it will run in the background of your unconscious as sub text.
I will soon be setting up a Q&A for you all to pose your questions family, work, relationship, health, social, fear, nervousness problems situations however in the meantime if you have any questions feel free to email me and I will endeavour to answer them. All emails received will be treated with anonymity.
Go out there in the world and commit to being the best you can be. Compare yourself to no man/woman as comparison is merely your own prison.
Live your dream,
Consigno
Tuesday 23 October 2007
1st Blog Post 23/10/2007
Good Morning, Good Evening, Good Afternoon,
This is my first post and by no means my last. I have been inspired and introduced to the blog idea by a good friend.
Given my current 50 hour working weeks it is now 11pm and I am going to keep this brief as I have to be up at 6am .
Some of the topics of conversation which I expect to cover in the coming months:
Getting what you want.
Focus and EnergyAvoid DistractionWin Win beat the game
on commtimenton positivityon the presenton balanceon relationshipson being yourselfWho am I?Never be perfectOn LoveOn AcceptanceOn Judgement (comparing)On ExerciseOn being the best On IntegrityOn Recycling (power of 10 video)ON Life (heartbeat)On Silence
About today in brief, observations which may bring you closer to understanding.
There is this guy at work and for anonymity purposes lets call him Mr M. Mr M has been in the UK for about 5 years and is now looking to go back to his country as he has had enough of this life and he wants to party and just relax by the beach.
A fantastic person, a beautiful soul, however has a tendency to come into work with a negative attitude; “oh, this does not work, this is CRA*, everyone has a problem, I can’t be bothered….” You get the idea.
Mr M had a problem with his bed in his current apartment and was complaining to me that this country is cra* and nothing works and that for 3 weeks he is trying to get his problem solved and his landlord is doing nothing about it. I saw this as good opportunity to open his eyes and reframed the situation to make his landlord not returning his calls due to a number of factors which he does not know and he must separate the emotion from the situation if he wants a result out of it. He told me that his result was to get a new bed in the house and we went through the steps and the state he must be in to do this. The whole process took no more than 5-7 minutes in a working setting.
To cut the long story short, he came into work with a great attitude and ready to have a great day. He told me that his landlord agreed that the bed needed changing, gave him the money on the spot, apologised and told him to get a bed asap.
There I thought Mr M may have opened up to new possibilities until come the end of the day over a small situation his comments went along the lines of “if no one cares, why should I”. This very mentality has caused many of the issues we have in this world. This separation has caused in us forgetting who we are and that we are all connected to one another whether we like it or not.
This will be raised in future talks and blogs which I am to provide.
If you leave anything behind, do not leave your positive attitude as this is what inspires others to learn from you.
Rise above your feelings.
Goodnight, 23:00 GMT
Consigno.
This is my first post and by no means my last. I have been inspired and introduced to the blog idea by a good friend.
Given my current 50 hour working weeks it is now 11pm and I am going to keep this brief as I have to be up at 6am .
Some of the topics of conversation which I expect to cover in the coming months:
Getting what you want.
Focus and EnergyAvoid DistractionWin Win beat the game
on commtimenton positivityon the presenton balanceon relationshipson being yourselfWho am I?Never be perfectOn LoveOn AcceptanceOn Judgement (comparing)On ExerciseOn being the best On IntegrityOn Recycling (power of 10 video)ON Life (heartbeat)On Silence
About today in brief, observations which may bring you closer to understanding.
There is this guy at work and for anonymity purposes lets call him Mr M. Mr M has been in the UK for about 5 years and is now looking to go back to his country as he has had enough of this life and he wants to party and just relax by the beach.
A fantastic person, a beautiful soul, however has a tendency to come into work with a negative attitude; “oh, this does not work, this is CRA*, everyone has a problem, I can’t be bothered….” You get the idea.
Mr M had a problem with his bed in his current apartment and was complaining to me that this country is cra* and nothing works and that for 3 weeks he is trying to get his problem solved and his landlord is doing nothing about it. I saw this as good opportunity to open his eyes and reframed the situation to make his landlord not returning his calls due to a number of factors which he does not know and he must separate the emotion from the situation if he wants a result out of it. He told me that his result was to get a new bed in the house and we went through the steps and the state he must be in to do this. The whole process took no more than 5-7 minutes in a working setting.
To cut the long story short, he came into work with a great attitude and ready to have a great day. He told me that his landlord agreed that the bed needed changing, gave him the money on the spot, apologised and told him to get a bed asap.
There I thought Mr M may have opened up to new possibilities until come the end of the day over a small situation his comments went along the lines of “if no one cares, why should I”. This very mentality has caused many of the issues we have in this world. This separation has caused in us forgetting who we are and that we are all connected to one another whether we like it or not.
This will be raised in future talks and blogs which I am to provide.
If you leave anything behind, do not leave your positive attitude as this is what inspires others to learn from you.
Rise above your feelings.
Goodnight, 23:00 GMT
Consigno.
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