Learnings From a Relationship breakup

I have not posted in sometime, however I have come to realise myself on an even deeper level. IT is so funny how when one is not intone with self, beliefs, ideologies and everything else for that matter is a miss.

I have just come out of a relationship and the amount I learnt about myself in the last month is truly amazing.

I am not back to my usual self. I am taking my teaching, sharing them with you and moving on, however I learnt a lot about the worlds of others and most importantly mine during this period.

So many relationships go on with the other at times being unhappy, yet they continue. They continue because maybe the other person believes that one day, that day being tomorrow will be ok, will be fine. The person will change, I will change. We will understand each other. Lets perceiver and it will be ok. They continue to be happy.

The underlying in most cases is the FEAR OF BEING ALONE. I was in a relationship for 7 months. A loving one. A fantastic women, an inspiration, a lover, a soul mate, however one day I just said that we are not right for each other. There is more to it, however the bottom line is we were not right for each other.

Only when we broke up could I see why so many people are in relationships that they do not want to be in. So many people in this world we live in are afraid of being alone, not being able to find someone else.

I remember a friend of mine after leaving his 3 year relationship, was down, depressed, sad and kept getting back together. I finally understood what it is like to have the fear of losing someone.

We have great times, ups and downs, laughter and cries, however we were just not right for each other. We wanted different things and as much as we loved each other we were just not right for each other.

We can continue for another 6 months, year or decade. However my unhappiness will eventually bring her unhappiness. Lets not leave todays sayings for tomorrow. I told her, and I remember clearly the moment I said “I am going to have to let you go” (internally).

She may not see it now, however 6 months, a year down the line I am sure she will find the right person. The person she is maybe in search for.

My father always said, “once the glass is broken, do not try and fit it”. I guess once it is broken no amount of superglue will put it together. Water will always seep through. Let it be.

I have so much gratitude towards this woman. She taught me so much. I learnt from her how to relax, where my ego played, and most of all from seeing how cool and composed she was I am now learning to relax with all my actions. To take my time.

If you are in relationship and you are unhappy, either change it to the way you want it to be, or just let it be for the sake of both of you. Life is short (depending on how you see it).

This blog post is a free flowing thought process.

I am not back to the same Cosigno as 2 months ago. I am however ever evolving with spiritual intelligence.

Bring on 2008.

Cosigno