So many of us go through life without living full out. You ask most old people what would be the one thing they would have done differently if they could turn back time and 9 times out of 10 the answer would be “to take more risk”.
Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.
What is it?
Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.
Why so many people lack this value?
People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.
These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.
If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.
How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.
Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.
Solution
Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?
One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.
If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.
Watch and Observe
When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.
I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.
Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.
If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.
It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?
The Assignment
For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.
Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.
Live your passion
Consigno
Tuesday 30 October 2007
Sunday 28 October 2007
On Being the Best
So many of us are looking to be the best and it is great that we make this conscious choice. It all falls apart when we look to be the best “compared” to someone or something.
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
Who Was Consigno?
My parents divorced when I was three. My father went to prison and my mother had me and my sister to look after. For a period of seven years we spent our time in woman’s refuge which I later found out from my mother that it was one of the worst experiences of her life.
Looking back me and my sister either found it fun or our mother disguised it pretty well. When I was 11, we moved out of the refuge and into permanent accommodation where my mother started a new relationship where I was abused by my mothers new partner whom I never really could get grips with calling him father.
I was a strange kid at school. Very naughty, and once where at every parents meeting the teachers would say, he has talent, he is a clever boy but he just needs to direct his energy.
I was the type of kid they called the “joker”. I would simply make everyone laugh, mimic the teachers and get in trouble for it. As long as I got the approval and the feeling of importance I thought I was going a good job. I was the school clown.
The problem kicked in when exam times were near. Everyone would simply go off and study and I would have this obligation within myself to feel I have a job to do and I had to please my fellow students and friends. Everyone learns their lesson the hard way and I did too.
I remember watching Richard Branson one day on TV and said “Mum, one day you will be proud of your son, he will be like that”. Hey I was a kid, however within this blog there will be moments which will leave you breathless…..
Do you remember when you were a kid and you had a dream? You wanted to be someone? A Fireman, A Doctor, A Police Officer, A Ballerina maybe? Well I wanted to be a Pilot. To get people from one place to another. To get people to their destination. This is what I have always been good at.
How a failure at school, the one person every other student thought would end up nowhere was the one kid who ended up going to University, completing a Masters Degree and a top UK University, speaker, a “professional” in the eyes of some and has continued to live his dream day by day. Labels which the social networked have attached to me.
Despite my education, this is not who I am and to some extend I disagree/agree with the system (see articles for further understanding).
Having been through the journey of the Ego and the transition from the belief of God to the knowing that a God exists you will find the sweetest of words within this blog.
Going from someone who used to have 2 litres of Coca Cola a day, Weekly KFC trips and a Burger King burger daily to going to someone who is in the gym 4 times a week, is awake at 5am and lives every day in gratitude.
I used to be shy with women, and within a short period of time I turned it around and starting dating some of the most beautiful women. I became the type of guy, guys would be jealous of in clubs and bars.
I used to look at those with more money than me and label and judge automatically. After my self realisations I become one who lives in gratitude, love, peace and harmony for every human soul on this planet. My salary has increased every year and the using simple concepts I became a master as some would like to call it.
Although I am not of any religious belief, I have respect for all and none. Some read my blog and tell me I am spiritual. This is not the case. I am neither spiritual or any other name which may have the potential of being marketable.
I invite you to look between the words of the articles in the blog and not to take them literally. Everything you read you will already know. Give your unconscious mind the key it has be in search for all this time.
If you have come this far in reading this, you the one the very few who is on a journey. That journey only you know, and you will reach that peak.
May you find yourself through the teaching, articles and text within this blog.
Peace&Love
Consigno
Looking back me and my sister either found it fun or our mother disguised it pretty well. When I was 11, we moved out of the refuge and into permanent accommodation where my mother started a new relationship where I was abused by my mothers new partner whom I never really could get grips with calling him father.
I was a strange kid at school. Very naughty, and once where at every parents meeting the teachers would say, he has talent, he is a clever boy but he just needs to direct his energy.
I was the type of kid they called the “joker”. I would simply make everyone laugh, mimic the teachers and get in trouble for it. As long as I got the approval and the feeling of importance I thought I was going a good job. I was the school clown.
The problem kicked in when exam times were near. Everyone would simply go off and study and I would have this obligation within myself to feel I have a job to do and I had to please my fellow students and friends. Everyone learns their lesson the hard way and I did too.
I remember watching Richard Branson one day on TV and said “Mum, one day you will be proud of your son, he will be like that”. Hey I was a kid, however within this blog there will be moments which will leave you breathless…..
Do you remember when you were a kid and you had a dream? You wanted to be someone? A Fireman, A Doctor, A Police Officer, A Ballerina maybe? Well I wanted to be a Pilot. To get people from one place to another. To get people to their destination. This is what I have always been good at.
How a failure at school, the one person every other student thought would end up nowhere was the one kid who ended up going to University, completing a Masters Degree and a top UK University, speaker, a “professional” in the eyes of some and has continued to live his dream day by day. Labels which the social networked have attached to me.
Despite my education, this is not who I am and to some extend I disagree/agree with the system (see articles for further understanding).
Having been through the journey of the Ego and the transition from the belief of God to the knowing that a God exists you will find the sweetest of words within this blog.
Going from someone who used to have 2 litres of Coca Cola a day, Weekly KFC trips and a Burger King burger daily to going to someone who is in the gym 4 times a week, is awake at 5am and lives every day in gratitude.
I used to be shy with women, and within a short period of time I turned it around and starting dating some of the most beautiful women. I became the type of guy, guys would be jealous of in clubs and bars.
I used to look at those with more money than me and label and judge automatically. After my self realisations I become one who lives in gratitude, love, peace and harmony for every human soul on this planet. My salary has increased every year and the using simple concepts I became a master as some would like to call it.
Although I am not of any religious belief, I have respect for all and none. Some read my blog and tell me I am spiritual. This is not the case. I am neither spiritual or any other name which may have the potential of being marketable.
I invite you to look between the words of the articles in the blog and not to take them literally. Everything you read you will already know. Give your unconscious mind the key it has be in search for all this time.
If you have come this far in reading this, you the one the very few who is on a journey. That journey only you know, and you will reach that peak.
May you find yourself through the teaching, articles and text within this blog.
Peace&Love
Consigno
Thursday 25 October 2007
On Commitment
I want to spend a moment to talk about Commitment. A word used every day, by our family and friends and especially in the working environment.
A word which because of the fear in failing to commit we fail to excel and push ourselves out there.
What is commitment. Merely a word with no meaning. Yes and No. In the language of God and the present moment a meaningless word, however from a social standpoint and especially a working standpoint to commit is to dedicate to a project till the end.
So many of us in life start off by saying I want to commit to losing weight for example, and then after a period of time they then start putting the pounds straight on. In this context I ask you to look to change your wording of what you commit to. To lose weight is not definitive enough, you unconscious is not playing any game here, it just knows “lose weight” which holds no meaning.
Why not reword it for yourself and commit to losing 3 stone over the next 12 months. Now this is definitive. You have told yourself the amount of weight you want to lose and by when you want to lose it. Simple. Now you can take the role of commitment more playfully and naturally.
When you have your end result set and your goal is definitive you path the way for natural commitment. The world commitment will not even be a word in your vocabulary as it will run in the background of your unconscious as sub text.
I will soon be setting up a Q&A for you all to pose your questions family, work, relationship, health, social, fear, nervousness problems situations however in the meantime if you have any questions feel free to email me and I will endeavour to answer them. All emails received will be treated with anonymity.
Go out there in the world and commit to being the best you can be. Compare yourself to no man/woman as comparison is merely your own prison.
Live your dream,
Consigno
A word which because of the fear in failing to commit we fail to excel and push ourselves out there.
What is commitment. Merely a word with no meaning. Yes and No. In the language of God and the present moment a meaningless word, however from a social standpoint and especially a working standpoint to commit is to dedicate to a project till the end.
So many of us in life start off by saying I want to commit to losing weight for example, and then after a period of time they then start putting the pounds straight on. In this context I ask you to look to change your wording of what you commit to. To lose weight is not definitive enough, you unconscious is not playing any game here, it just knows “lose weight” which holds no meaning.
Why not reword it for yourself and commit to losing 3 stone over the next 12 months. Now this is definitive. You have told yourself the amount of weight you want to lose and by when you want to lose it. Simple. Now you can take the role of commitment more playfully and naturally.
When you have your end result set and your goal is definitive you path the way for natural commitment. The world commitment will not even be a word in your vocabulary as it will run in the background of your unconscious as sub text.
I will soon be setting up a Q&A for you all to pose your questions family, work, relationship, health, social, fear, nervousness problems situations however in the meantime if you have any questions feel free to email me and I will endeavour to answer them. All emails received will be treated with anonymity.
Go out there in the world and commit to being the best you can be. Compare yourself to no man/woman as comparison is merely your own prison.
Live your dream,
Consigno
Tuesday 23 October 2007
1st Blog Post 23/10/2007
Good Morning, Good Evening, Good Afternoon,
This is my first post and by no means my last. I have been inspired and introduced to the blog idea by a good friend.
Given my current 50 hour working weeks it is now 11pm and I am going to keep this brief as I have to be up at 6am .
Some of the topics of conversation which I expect to cover in the coming months:
Getting what you want.
Focus and EnergyAvoid DistractionWin Win beat the game
on commtimenton positivityon the presenton balanceon relationshipson being yourselfWho am I?Never be perfectOn LoveOn AcceptanceOn Judgement (comparing)On ExerciseOn being the best On IntegrityOn Recycling (power of 10 video)ON Life (heartbeat)On Silence
About today in brief, observations which may bring you closer to understanding.
There is this guy at work and for anonymity purposes lets call him Mr M. Mr M has been in the UK for about 5 years and is now looking to go back to his country as he has had enough of this life and he wants to party and just relax by the beach.
A fantastic person, a beautiful soul, however has a tendency to come into work with a negative attitude; “oh, this does not work, this is CRA*, everyone has a problem, I can’t be bothered….” You get the idea.
Mr M had a problem with his bed in his current apartment and was complaining to me that this country is cra* and nothing works and that for 3 weeks he is trying to get his problem solved and his landlord is doing nothing about it. I saw this as good opportunity to open his eyes and reframed the situation to make his landlord not returning his calls due to a number of factors which he does not know and he must separate the emotion from the situation if he wants a result out of it. He told me that his result was to get a new bed in the house and we went through the steps and the state he must be in to do this. The whole process took no more than 5-7 minutes in a working setting.
To cut the long story short, he came into work with a great attitude and ready to have a great day. He told me that his landlord agreed that the bed needed changing, gave him the money on the spot, apologised and told him to get a bed asap.
There I thought Mr M may have opened up to new possibilities until come the end of the day over a small situation his comments went along the lines of “if no one cares, why should I”. This very mentality has caused many of the issues we have in this world. This separation has caused in us forgetting who we are and that we are all connected to one another whether we like it or not.
This will be raised in future talks and blogs which I am to provide.
If you leave anything behind, do not leave your positive attitude as this is what inspires others to learn from you.
Rise above your feelings.
Goodnight, 23:00 GMT
Consigno.
This is my first post and by no means my last. I have been inspired and introduced to the blog idea by a good friend.
Given my current 50 hour working weeks it is now 11pm and I am going to keep this brief as I have to be up at 6am .
Some of the topics of conversation which I expect to cover in the coming months:
Getting what you want.
Focus and EnergyAvoid DistractionWin Win beat the game
on commtimenton positivityon the presenton balanceon relationshipson being yourselfWho am I?Never be perfectOn LoveOn AcceptanceOn Judgement (comparing)On ExerciseOn being the best On IntegrityOn Recycling (power of 10 video)ON Life (heartbeat)On Silence
About today in brief, observations which may bring you closer to understanding.
There is this guy at work and for anonymity purposes lets call him Mr M. Mr M has been in the UK for about 5 years and is now looking to go back to his country as he has had enough of this life and he wants to party and just relax by the beach.
A fantastic person, a beautiful soul, however has a tendency to come into work with a negative attitude; “oh, this does not work, this is CRA*, everyone has a problem, I can’t be bothered….” You get the idea.
Mr M had a problem with his bed in his current apartment and was complaining to me that this country is cra* and nothing works and that for 3 weeks he is trying to get his problem solved and his landlord is doing nothing about it. I saw this as good opportunity to open his eyes and reframed the situation to make his landlord not returning his calls due to a number of factors which he does not know and he must separate the emotion from the situation if he wants a result out of it. He told me that his result was to get a new bed in the house and we went through the steps and the state he must be in to do this. The whole process took no more than 5-7 minutes in a working setting.
To cut the long story short, he came into work with a great attitude and ready to have a great day. He told me that his landlord agreed that the bed needed changing, gave him the money on the spot, apologised and told him to get a bed asap.
There I thought Mr M may have opened up to new possibilities until come the end of the day over a small situation his comments went along the lines of “if no one cares, why should I”. This very mentality has caused many of the issues we have in this world. This separation has caused in us forgetting who we are and that we are all connected to one another whether we like it or not.
This will be raised in future talks and blogs which I am to provide.
If you leave anything behind, do not leave your positive attitude as this is what inspires others to learn from you.
Rise above your feelings.
Goodnight, 23:00 GMT
Consigno.
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