Dear friend,
It has been sometime since my posting. A lot has been going on with projects work and non-work related so I’ve been out of the blogging scene. I do however still have my memories and today I am going to talk about how balance is a key part of ones life and over stepping the mark out of tune with what the universe expects of you will just land you straight back on your ass.
Confidence is a great trait to have. To be bold and stand in the face of fear through confidence is wonderful. To be positive and to have goals is also a great way to keep the mind busy, develop your own ability and maybe even give back your teachings and learning’s to others.
The problem occurs when the confidence is overdone. I remember a story from my own life. I remember going through a good 6 month straight patch of just positive thinking, goal achieving, public speaking, winning projects and doing well in almost all aspects of life.
Toward the end of my reign about month 5 or 6 something happened. One evening I was at a corporate event and for some reason I just seemed to have lost all my confidence. No matter how much reframing I did, no matter how much I reprogrammed myself I could not just not get myself back to the same state.
I took it as a bad day and thought the next day would be better. Uh uh, no way. I just seemed to have lost my power. A week or so went by and I decided to look deep within and find out what exactly was the issue. Why was this happening to me. Why was I going from winning business, deals, getting dates, doing well financially to the other extreme or being dislikes, not doing well in social settings, losing deals and so on? Why was this happening?
After a deep inner dialogue and search it came to me. What I had done was to take my confidence and so called power get to my head. I became thinking of “self” more than anything. I disregarded everyone else in transactions I would undertake both in my social life and corporate life. I had let the ego take its form to the extreme polarity.
It was a great lesson learnt and I am very grateful that this experience happened to me. Everything requires balance. Sure it is great to be confident, however the difference is I started believing that “confidence” was who I was.
I was merely taking from the conscious self. The higher self knew better. The higher self knew that I was none of these things and as the situation became volatile the higher self bitch slapped me in my face and sat me back on my ass and said. “STFU and watch what is going on around you”.
Whenever there is an unbalance in our system our bodies tell us. The message can come through a disease, a neighbour, an email, a change in weather. It can come in many shapes and forms. The key is to be aware of this.
I am as much a confident as I am a good dancer. I cannot dance, but I can learn how to. As much as I am confident I am also lets say shit scared. Now it is upto us to balance this out.
Since my adventure which was about a year ago now, I have learnt that I can remain confident and still have empathy and this for us is key. Show empathy, show your love, your genuine interest and your confidence naturally shows.
The best way to judge whether you are being confident from the heart is to ask yourself this question. “When I sleep at night do I think that I am being fake”? This was a great one for me. Now this question also answers many other questions which I will be talking about in the coming month however that is a great one. “Do the people around me really know what I am like”?
Be yourself and your true self will shine. The higher self of confidence will take flight, the conscious flight will only come in every now and again.
I have since coached several key members of society on this matter and one of them clearly comes to mind. After reading books, watching audio books, going into self for almost 4 years he came to me and said “Consigno, I know it all”. This is too easy. I know everything there is to know. 3 months later, this person bitch slapped similar to me. He ended up getting fired from his job, gained 10Kg and even considered suicide.
After several consultations he was fine but the message to get here go with the belief that you are nothing and know nothing. This was you can always learn. This way you remain within, your inner being shines. People start asking you key questions, advice. They see your true being, they want to be like you.
It is a great gift. Remember, you never know everything. When your overconfidence creeps between that border when you lose yourself, you have one of two choices. Either you learn the hard way and get bitch slapped, or if you realise in time, you pull it back in balance.
There is nothing wrong with a bitch slap however if that same bitch slap happens again within the same circumstances then as the saying goes “only a fool makes the same mistake twice”.
Learn and move on.
Peace&Love
Consigno,
Thursday 27 March 2008
Saturday 9 February 2008
Wake UP
What the fuck happened to us. We live in such a beautiful world, we can be anything we want to be. We have so much potential and yet we still feel eluded, our visions impured. What happened to the real men of this world. The beautiful women? They were always there you just became more and more disillusioned as the days went on.
You were born, conditioned, and boundaries were set into your existence. You fools. You were taught and educated that this and that are wrong, that we are useless, we will not achieve or be anything. We started losing our self respect, our emotions, we simply became a thing of existence with no values, nothing more than a thing that comprised of atoms which met the demands of expectations of the very few who had dreams. Did you have dream….ever? I bet you did. So what the fuck happened to them?
Wake the fuck up. Life is short, and damn do we evolve so quickly. Telephone, Ipods, mobile phones, blah blah blah. Where are you dreams. Start getting them out of your head and put those damn things into action.
We are beings, human beings with values, beliefs, intelligence and understanding. Wake up and become the person you always wanted to be.
A Doctor, a Pilot, a Philosopher, Nurse. C’mon, remember when you were a kid. You had fire, curiosity. Bring that back. Become the love you always were.
When you compare I do not hate you. It is not your fault. Sure your responsibility but not your fault. Your conditioning has enabled you judge and compare. Who know and feel there is an issue, you see it in your own being and voice when you are alone. Rise above it. You know it is not true, but yet you cannot stop comparing because it is so embed into your system you do not know how to get rid of it.
Why not start watching it and slowly watch it disappear. Why not start writing out what you want, who you want to become and look into it with a peace of mind and harmony.
It is not easy. It will not happen overnight. You maybe 18, 30, 40 or 70+ reading this. I do not care about age. That is in itself the conditioning you are raised. I am 40, I am old. What is the point of living my dream. All that bullshit you are conditioned to believe.
I do not care if you are 100, you still wanted to be something when you were a kid. You had dreams and ambitions. Make them fucking happen. Live your last moment like it is your last and when the time has come for you to go whether by force or other means you are more than happy as you have fulfilled your life.
If someone was to point a gun to your head now and pull the trigger, would you break out in a sweat and pray for your life, or would you go out with a nice big blissful smile. TIME TO WAKE UP.
There is no rush. Slowly and patiently you can do it. Fuck the global footprint, carbon emissions and the rest of the entertainment which the media fills you daily.
Take some solitude time to find out who you really are.
You are the best. There is no one like you born ever in existence. Become whatever you want to be.
LOVE ALL SERVE ALL and LIVE LIFE TO THE MAX.
Peace&love
Consigno
You were born, conditioned, and boundaries were set into your existence. You fools. You were taught and educated that this and that are wrong, that we are useless, we will not achieve or be anything. We started losing our self respect, our emotions, we simply became a thing of existence with no values, nothing more than a thing that comprised of atoms which met the demands of expectations of the very few who had dreams. Did you have dream….ever? I bet you did. So what the fuck happened to them?
Wake the fuck up. Life is short, and damn do we evolve so quickly. Telephone, Ipods, mobile phones, blah blah blah. Where are you dreams. Start getting them out of your head and put those damn things into action.
We are beings, human beings with values, beliefs, intelligence and understanding. Wake up and become the person you always wanted to be.
A Doctor, a Pilot, a Philosopher, Nurse. C’mon, remember when you were a kid. You had fire, curiosity. Bring that back. Become the love you always were.
When you compare I do not hate you. It is not your fault. Sure your responsibility but not your fault. Your conditioning has enabled you judge and compare. Who know and feel there is an issue, you see it in your own being and voice when you are alone. Rise above it. You know it is not true, but yet you cannot stop comparing because it is so embed into your system you do not know how to get rid of it.
Why not start watching it and slowly watch it disappear. Why not start writing out what you want, who you want to become and look into it with a peace of mind and harmony.
It is not easy. It will not happen overnight. You maybe 18, 30, 40 or 70+ reading this. I do not care about age. That is in itself the conditioning you are raised. I am 40, I am old. What is the point of living my dream. All that bullshit you are conditioned to believe.
I do not care if you are 100, you still wanted to be something when you were a kid. You had dreams and ambitions. Make them fucking happen. Live your last moment like it is your last and when the time has come for you to go whether by force or other means you are more than happy as you have fulfilled your life.
If someone was to point a gun to your head now and pull the trigger, would you break out in a sweat and pray for your life, or would you go out with a nice big blissful smile. TIME TO WAKE UP.
There is no rush. Slowly and patiently you can do it. Fuck the global footprint, carbon emissions and the rest of the entertainment which the media fills you daily.
Take some solitude time to find out who you really are.
You are the best. There is no one like you born ever in existence. Become whatever you want to be.
LOVE ALL SERVE ALL and LIVE LIFE TO THE MAX.
Peace&love
Consigno
Sunday 20 January 2008
Learnings From a Relationship breakup
I have not posted in sometime, however I have come to realise myself on an even deeper level. IT is so funny how when one is not intone with self, beliefs, ideologies and everything else for that matter is a miss.
I have just come out of a relationship and the amount I learnt about myself in the last month is truly amazing.
I am not back to my usual self. I am taking my teaching, sharing them with you and moving on, however I learnt a lot about the worlds of others and most importantly mine during this period.
So many relationships go on with the other at times being unhappy, yet they continue. They continue because maybe the other person believes that one day, that day being tomorrow will be ok, will be fine. The person will change, I will change. We will understand each other. Lets perceiver and it will be ok. They continue to be happy.
The underlying in most cases is the FEAR OF BEING ALONE. I was in a relationship for 7 months. A loving one. A fantastic women, an inspiration, a lover, a soul mate, however one day I just said that we are not right for each other. There is more to it, however the bottom line is we were not right for each other.
Only when we broke up could I see why so many people are in relationships that they do not want to be in. So many people in this world we live in are afraid of being alone, not being able to find someone else.
I remember a friend of mine after leaving his 3 year relationship, was down, depressed, sad and kept getting back together. I finally understood what it is like to have the fear of losing someone.
We have great times, ups and downs, laughter and cries, however we were just not right for each other. We wanted different things and as much as we loved each other we were just not right for each other.
We can continue for another 6 months, year or decade. However my unhappiness will eventually bring her unhappiness. Lets not leave todays sayings for tomorrow. I told her, and I remember clearly the moment I said “I am going to have to let you go” (internally).
She may not see it now, however 6 months, a year down the line I am sure she will find the right person. The person she is maybe in search for.
My father always said, “once the glass is broken, do not try and fit it”. I guess once it is broken no amount of superglue will put it together. Water will always seep through. Let it be.
I have so much gratitude towards this woman. She taught me so much. I learnt from her how to relax, where my ego played, and most of all from seeing how cool and composed she was I am now learning to relax with all my actions. To take my time.
If you are in relationship and you are unhappy, either change it to the way you want it to be, or just let it be for the sake of both of you. Life is short (depending on how you see it).
This blog post is a free flowing thought process.
I am not back to the same Cosigno as 2 months ago. I am however ever evolving with spiritual intelligence.
Bring on 2008.
Cosigno
I have just come out of a relationship and the amount I learnt about myself in the last month is truly amazing.
I am not back to my usual self. I am taking my teaching, sharing them with you and moving on, however I learnt a lot about the worlds of others and most importantly mine during this period.
So many relationships go on with the other at times being unhappy, yet they continue. They continue because maybe the other person believes that one day, that day being tomorrow will be ok, will be fine. The person will change, I will change. We will understand each other. Lets perceiver and it will be ok. They continue to be happy.
The underlying in most cases is the FEAR OF BEING ALONE. I was in a relationship for 7 months. A loving one. A fantastic women, an inspiration, a lover, a soul mate, however one day I just said that we are not right for each other. There is more to it, however the bottom line is we were not right for each other.
Only when we broke up could I see why so many people are in relationships that they do not want to be in. So many people in this world we live in are afraid of being alone, not being able to find someone else.
I remember a friend of mine after leaving his 3 year relationship, was down, depressed, sad and kept getting back together. I finally understood what it is like to have the fear of losing someone.
We have great times, ups and downs, laughter and cries, however we were just not right for each other. We wanted different things and as much as we loved each other we were just not right for each other.
We can continue for another 6 months, year or decade. However my unhappiness will eventually bring her unhappiness. Lets not leave todays sayings for tomorrow. I told her, and I remember clearly the moment I said “I am going to have to let you go” (internally).
She may not see it now, however 6 months, a year down the line I am sure she will find the right person. The person she is maybe in search for.
My father always said, “once the glass is broken, do not try and fit it”. I guess once it is broken no amount of superglue will put it together. Water will always seep through. Let it be.
I have so much gratitude towards this woman. She taught me so much. I learnt from her how to relax, where my ego played, and most of all from seeing how cool and composed she was I am now learning to relax with all my actions. To take my time.
If you are in relationship and you are unhappy, either change it to the way you want it to be, or just let it be for the sake of both of you. Life is short (depending on how you see it).
This blog post is a free flowing thought process.
I am not back to the same Cosigno as 2 months ago. I am however ever evolving with spiritual intelligence.
Bring on 2008.
Cosigno
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