HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF IS HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD
We are constantly struggling to “be perfect”. We abide by the law the best we can and so rightly we should. We look to be perfect at everything we do for what purpose.
This evening I challenge your thinking. I invite you see how everything was perfect to begin with, and nothing needs to be altered. I invite you to open your mind and soul to this.
The Beginning
I remember the days when I was at school and I would be asked a question by the teacher along the lines of “what is 2 x 3”. With my response being a “6, I would get a “perfect Consigno”, perfect, that is correct. Somewhere along the lines I started to think I was special and that people had an expectation of me to be perfect. This was the start of the system covering me with the invisible veil.
The above example is a true story and has happened to almost of all us. We are constantly struggling to be perfect so what happened?
The idea is installed into us. We are brought into the world having being taught that when you get things right you are “perfect” and when you get them wrong it is bad or wrong and we get a flurry of emotions pulling us from all angles.
When you look at a baby, you see someone pure. Language has not yet been installed and it constantly curious. It does whatever it wants. The baby will be not know right, wrong, perfect, special. It starts to learn these through its mother, school, TV. It begins to be conditioned into what society “expects” of him/her. What a bitch. All this time you thought you were free and now you are probably realising that you have been pre-conditioned.
You are not special
The first thing you must realise is that you are not special. The minute you see yourself as special, the unconscious separates you from all of existence. You see yourself as better or worse to others. To be unique I agree with, however to say or feel that you are special is nothing but ego and if you look deep you with find it manifesting inside.
The World is not Perfect…..WRONG
When I tell people the world is perfect people turn around and tell me how can it be when you have innocent people dying at war, hunger in Africa, aids and global warming. How can the world is perfect. Millions dying in Africa from starvation every week is not wrong. The emotions that we feel just by those bolded words about can get us in state of feeling sorry or sad about the thing and feeling that we should help in some way.
Guess what happens then. Marketing comes in and Oxfam kick in with their very cunning advertising campaigns. You see it on TV all the time. A bloated boy/girl with flies all over them. You get the commentators empathetic voice and a calm song in the background. You started feeling emotional, call the Toll free number and give your £15/$30 a month as a “token of good will” which makes you “feel good”. You see it again on your trains, shouting at you, “help me, donate”.
I say this, because I used to be one these people. I used to have a monthly direct debit coming out of my account going to some charity I had no idea about sold by someone on the street. How naïve. I was giving with the sole intent on getting something back.
The realisation only hit me after about 18 months after I originally signed up. Once I realised and my perception of the world changed, I setup my own charity where I would go lovingly with my group and feed the homeless. I would feel what it is like walking in the streets at 5am in the morning feeding the homeless in below -2 degrees. Then you truly realise the worth of touching a human soul.
I will admit it. I was also systemised. I followed the trend, always tried to fit in, until I WOKE UP. Now I choose to be in the system or out of it as I please. I enjoy both, however to think that this all that life is about is nothing but bullshit. So many of us have questions we want to answer.
So many of us decided to go back packing to china to find ourselves, when really all you have to do is have the guts to just take a look deep inside yourself. The answer is there. You will find it. It will not be easy at first, however only after the rain will you see the sunshine.
Heaven On Earth
I believe heaven is right here on earth. I experience it daily and we live in a beautiful world. Firstly you must realise that anything which creates an emotion of sorrow, neglect, happiness or anything else which makes you act or feel in a certain way has been created in you by your pre-conditioning at a young age.
This is the exact same reason that when you look newspapers and you see a headline such as “100 DIE IN WAR” or “DEBT REACHES NEW HEIGHTS” you get affected by. They are just words yet we allow ourselves to get moved and rattled by them.
What is the solution?
The first thing to do is take a look at yourself. Stop looking externally at the world and seeing the problem. The problem lies in you and guess what? For every problem there is a solution also and that lies in you too. Go deep in yourself and see what is the root cause of all these feeling you get.
HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
The world you live in is perfect
The world we live in is perfect. Nothing needs to be changed. This is a deep realisation. It’s a state of being which you can achieve through self realisation. Being in love, being peaceful in self allows you the possibility to see the world as it is.
I invite you to look at the world different.
Consigno,
Sunday 25 November 2007
Wednesday 21 November 2007
WAKE UP…..It is not about YOU!!!
In life the majority focus so much on themselves that they forget about everyone else. There is an old saying that if you help enough people get to their goals in life and enable them to self realise then you will eventually get to your goals.
I remember I used to be one of these self centred people who thought I was special. I had the focus on me and “I” all the day. I always looked at me in the situation and saw other people to be the problem until I came to many self realisations which I will not go into detail now.
What I really want to get across to you however is start waking up to the fact the only way for you to realise yourself better is to watch, observe and witness your thoughts while your judgment kicks in on others.
Take the ME ME ME focus out. It is not about you. It is this self centred attitude and separation that so many people in the world have adopted that has simply made them all forget who they are and what their purpose in life is.
True happiness lies in getting others to their goals. If you look at the biggest and best leaders in the world, this is the one single most important thing you will hear them say. See what others want, get them there and you will be sure to see them get you to where you want to be.
Wake up NOW.
Do something different, challenge your thinking.
Consigno,
I remember I used to be one of these self centred people who thought I was special. I had the focus on me and “I” all the day. I always looked at me in the situation and saw other people to be the problem until I came to many self realisations which I will not go into detail now.
What I really want to get across to you however is start waking up to the fact the only way for you to realise yourself better is to watch, observe and witness your thoughts while your judgment kicks in on others.
Take the ME ME ME focus out. It is not about you. It is this self centred attitude and separation that so many people in the world have adopted that has simply made them all forget who they are and what their purpose in life is.
True happiness lies in getting others to their goals. If you look at the biggest and best leaders in the world, this is the one single most important thing you will hear them say. See what others want, get them there and you will be sure to see them get you to where you want to be.
Wake up NOW.
Do something different, challenge your thinking.
Consigno,
Thursday 8 November 2007
Why Women Sell Their Bodies and Men Pay For Sex
In the land of Love, we accept all without judgment, however we shall be talking from a different prospective today.
What did you want to be when you grew up? A Fireman, A Heart Surgeon, a Pilot, A Vet? What did you really jump up with joy when asked the question “What did you want to be when you grew up”? Are you that person, now, if not what happened?
You are born a shining star, a flower, always on the move, curious, happy, excited and most importantly you had ambition and passion in everything you did?
Slowly but surely you started to get challenged and started to be told you cannot do this and you cannot do that. You were told from a society prospective the meaning of failure and that when you set to do something and you do not achieve it is it failure.
Your conscious started to get attacked, your unconscious started to be transformed from the teaching from our families, friends, TV, books and so on. We slowly forgot our passion and desire for our ambition as we grew older and started to settle for less or average.
The seed of “hope” was planted into our heads, and then the lottery was created. The “hope” that with $1, Euro1, £1 you could maybe, just maybe win MILLIONS.
You forgot your ambition, you gave up just a little to early. Had you just gone on that little bit longer, you would have seen the light at the end of the tunnel.
You lost your values, your integrity, self respect and your own key morals.
Women sell their bodies as it can be seen as profession and some love what they do. Some, however simply do not.
These people are the ones that have lost not hope, but have lost faith. They to once had a dream.
How many women do you honestly think at the age of five say “Daddy, I want to be a working girl”?
How many boys at the age of seven say “Mummy, I want to pay for sex or be a pimp”.
Sure, in the world of no reason and the present moment, there is nothing wrong and the question is not whether it is right or wrong, however more a case of what may have happened.
At some point in your life, you were hurt somewhere and this changed your entire perception of both men and women.
A women was once cheated by from her boyfriend and beaten around. A year later she turned into a prostitute. Why, I do not know, however somewhere along the line her thoughts towards men changed, and she became a working girl.
A guy, did not have the confidence to go and find a girlfriend, so he uses the easy method and exchanges paper for sex. This is nothing other than short term gain. In the long run both parties lose out bigtime.
Women – You need no man to tell you that you look beautiful. You do not need confirmation from anyone. When you dress up and go out and look all fantastic with your make up, do not go out to compare yourself to other women. Be yourself and enjoy yourself.
So many times I will be out and the when I start speaking to these women, I slowly get them to a place there never thought existed. That inner beauty, where the heart starts singing and the inner voice and ego is quieted down by the music of the heart.
Do not sell yourself under any circumstances. You are better than this and you know it. Look at yourself in the mirror and I always say this…..say “I LOVE YOU”.
Men – Go out there and believe that you can get any women you set your mind to and there is no need to pay for sex. Be masculine men which you are and that women love and start conversations. Do not be wiped out of existence for your mere stupidity.
Start believing in yourself. Start believing that you can do anything you set your mind too. Find your ambition and go for it whatever it takes.
Hell is not this place you disappear to where the fire burns till eternity. Hell is merely not living out your dream.
Start living your passion and do not settle for anything else.
Consigno
What did you want to be when you grew up? A Fireman, A Heart Surgeon, a Pilot, A Vet? What did you really jump up with joy when asked the question “What did you want to be when you grew up”? Are you that person, now, if not what happened?
You are born a shining star, a flower, always on the move, curious, happy, excited and most importantly you had ambition and passion in everything you did?
Slowly but surely you started to get challenged and started to be told you cannot do this and you cannot do that. You were told from a society prospective the meaning of failure and that when you set to do something and you do not achieve it is it failure.
Your conscious started to get attacked, your unconscious started to be transformed from the teaching from our families, friends, TV, books and so on. We slowly forgot our passion and desire for our ambition as we grew older and started to settle for less or average.
The seed of “hope” was planted into our heads, and then the lottery was created. The “hope” that with $1, Euro1, £1 you could maybe, just maybe win MILLIONS.
You forgot your ambition, you gave up just a little to early. Had you just gone on that little bit longer, you would have seen the light at the end of the tunnel.
You lost your values, your integrity, self respect and your own key morals.
Women sell their bodies as it can be seen as profession and some love what they do. Some, however simply do not.
These people are the ones that have lost not hope, but have lost faith. They to once had a dream.
How many women do you honestly think at the age of five say “Daddy, I want to be a working girl”?
How many boys at the age of seven say “Mummy, I want to pay for sex or be a pimp”.
Sure, in the world of no reason and the present moment, there is nothing wrong and the question is not whether it is right or wrong, however more a case of what may have happened.
At some point in your life, you were hurt somewhere and this changed your entire perception of both men and women.
A women was once cheated by from her boyfriend and beaten around. A year later she turned into a prostitute. Why, I do not know, however somewhere along the line her thoughts towards men changed, and she became a working girl.
A guy, did not have the confidence to go and find a girlfriend, so he uses the easy method and exchanges paper for sex. This is nothing other than short term gain. In the long run both parties lose out bigtime.
Women – You need no man to tell you that you look beautiful. You do not need confirmation from anyone. When you dress up and go out and look all fantastic with your make up, do not go out to compare yourself to other women. Be yourself and enjoy yourself.
So many times I will be out and the when I start speaking to these women, I slowly get them to a place there never thought existed. That inner beauty, where the heart starts singing and the inner voice and ego is quieted down by the music of the heart.
Do not sell yourself under any circumstances. You are better than this and you know it. Look at yourself in the mirror and I always say this…..say “I LOVE YOU”.
Men – Go out there and believe that you can get any women you set your mind to and there is no need to pay for sex. Be masculine men which you are and that women love and start conversations. Do not be wiped out of existence for your mere stupidity.
Start believing in yourself. Start believing that you can do anything you set your mind too. Find your ambition and go for it whatever it takes.
Hell is not this place you disappear to where the fire burns till eternity. Hell is merely not living out your dream.
Start living your passion and do not settle for anything else.
Consigno
Tuesday 6 November 2007
On Office Politics
It exists and that it. It comes with the title of work or job. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists.
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
Sunday 4 November 2007
On Love
So many relationships go by and reach a point when one or both parties turn around and say “I don’t love him/her like I used too”, “I don’t love you anymore”. Heartbreak for most, pain, and most of us have either experienced this sort of “pain” or know someone who has.
The conversation of topic for today will be on “LOVE”.
We have been raised in a society where we are taught that love is to some extend material. Love is Hollywood. Love is going to the Grand Canyon, Eifel Tower or sitting by Hollywood staring into each others eyes and saying those magical three words “I Love You”.
If you believe the above then I would recommend you don’t read the rest of the blog as I am about to shatter your dreams.
Definition of Love – To accept the way one is and the way one is not.
That’s it. Love is merely acceptance. Accept the way a person is and the way they are not. On the journey of enlightenment this is the ultimate realisation. After the stripping down of self and realising what has made you the way you are, there is a place which I find sometimes very hard to translate into words. Ultimate Bliss.
Total love for everyone around you, your family, your parents, your colleagues, trees, birds, life, the Universe.
“I don’t love you anymore”, simply means you do not love yourself. All things start from self first. You want people to respect you for example, hey start respecting yourself. You want people to love you, then hey guess what, start loving yourself.
Sure, your probably now thinking, how can I when I have been through so much in my life. How can you say this when you do not know my situation?
This is true, I probably do not know your situation, however I do not necessarily need to know. All the emotions and feelings you have experienced, guess what I have also experienced at some point in my life. I have been through the hardship and pain also. This is now in the past.
Get over it and stop dwelling on it. To hold regret, anger merely is holding you back from the love you can give to the world.
Many people go through life with the emotions of hate, anger, depression and feel that by them thinking like this it is a bad thing and they must stop the thought immediately. What wrong with this method? As you are looking to stop the thought, the thought simply gets suppressed until one day it explodes into an almighty rage.
Do not suppress you thoughts. Instead, watch them, observe them. Become a watcher to your thought, and go deep into self and see where that thought or emotion stems from. Only then once you have rooted the problem can you then control it flow and let it pass by just like the wind breezes your face without your reasoning or questioning.
Remember when you were a baby?
I do not, however that is beside the point. Do you not find that when you look at a baby who is smiling, it naturally makes you smile. When it laughs you also laugh. You see babies are not yet moulded into what society expects of them. Their love is given freely to all. A baby is pure, whole, and complete.
Give love freely. When you give a gift to someone, give it without looking or seeking for the acknowledgement and thank you in return. Give it freely.
Your parents?
So many people come to me on 1-1’s and tell me the problems they have with the father or mother. They complain that they do not like their father because he is weird or that their mother constantly complain. You have all heard the saying that when you point the finger, the thumb and the other fingers points straight back to you (covered in future articles).
Your parents are the way they are, your friends are the way they are, if there were not they would not be your parents or friends. Accept them for the way they are and this is final. Only then can you allow love to flow through you.
Go and do this now. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I LOVE ME”. No judgement or comparison. Do not love ME with ego flowing being fat, healthy, muscular, bald, beautiful eyes. Just “I LOVE ME”. No judgment, no comparison. Take a deep breathe and GIVE IT A GO NOW.
Begin your process of love now. It happens slowly but surely, and once you are there you will see why I keep drilling this into you.
Remember it starts with SELF. Love self, and then the love to others will come with ease.
Peace&Love,
Consigno
The conversation of topic for today will be on “LOVE”.
We have been raised in a society where we are taught that love is to some extend material. Love is Hollywood. Love is going to the Grand Canyon, Eifel Tower or sitting by Hollywood staring into each others eyes and saying those magical three words “I Love You”.
If you believe the above then I would recommend you don’t read the rest of the blog as I am about to shatter your dreams.
Definition of Love – To accept the way one is and the way one is not.
That’s it. Love is merely acceptance. Accept the way a person is and the way they are not. On the journey of enlightenment this is the ultimate realisation. After the stripping down of self and realising what has made you the way you are, there is a place which I find sometimes very hard to translate into words. Ultimate Bliss.
Total love for everyone around you, your family, your parents, your colleagues, trees, birds, life, the Universe.
“I don’t love you anymore”, simply means you do not love yourself. All things start from self first. You want people to respect you for example, hey start respecting yourself. You want people to love you, then hey guess what, start loving yourself.
Sure, your probably now thinking, how can I when I have been through so much in my life. How can you say this when you do not know my situation?
This is true, I probably do not know your situation, however I do not necessarily need to know. All the emotions and feelings you have experienced, guess what I have also experienced at some point in my life. I have been through the hardship and pain also. This is now in the past.
Get over it and stop dwelling on it. To hold regret, anger merely is holding you back from the love you can give to the world.
Many people go through life with the emotions of hate, anger, depression and feel that by them thinking like this it is a bad thing and they must stop the thought immediately. What wrong with this method? As you are looking to stop the thought, the thought simply gets suppressed until one day it explodes into an almighty rage.
Do not suppress you thoughts. Instead, watch them, observe them. Become a watcher to your thought, and go deep into self and see where that thought or emotion stems from. Only then once you have rooted the problem can you then control it flow and let it pass by just like the wind breezes your face without your reasoning or questioning.
Remember when you were a baby?
I do not, however that is beside the point. Do you not find that when you look at a baby who is smiling, it naturally makes you smile. When it laughs you also laugh. You see babies are not yet moulded into what society expects of them. Their love is given freely to all. A baby is pure, whole, and complete.
Give love freely. When you give a gift to someone, give it without looking or seeking for the acknowledgement and thank you in return. Give it freely.
Your parents?
So many people come to me on 1-1’s and tell me the problems they have with the father or mother. They complain that they do not like their father because he is weird or that their mother constantly complain. You have all heard the saying that when you point the finger, the thumb and the other fingers points straight back to you (covered in future articles).
Your parents are the way they are, your friends are the way they are, if there were not they would not be your parents or friends. Accept them for the way they are and this is final. Only then can you allow love to flow through you.
Go and do this now. Look at yourself in the mirror and say “I LOVE ME”. No judgement or comparison. Do not love ME with ego flowing being fat, healthy, muscular, bald, beautiful eyes. Just “I LOVE ME”. No judgment, no comparison. Take a deep breathe and GIVE IT A GO NOW.
Begin your process of love now. It happens slowly but surely, and once you are there you will see why I keep drilling this into you.
Remember it starts with SELF. Love self, and then the love to others will come with ease.
Peace&Love,
Consigno
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