On Integrity

So many of us go through life without living full out. You ask most old people what would be the one thing they would have done differently if they could turn back time and 9 times out of 10 the answer would be “to take more risk”.

Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.

What is it?

Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.

Why so many people lack this value?

People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.

These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.

If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.

How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.

Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.

Solution

Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?

One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.

If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.

Watch and Observe

When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.

I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.

Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.

If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.

It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?

The Assignment

For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.


Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.

Live your passion



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