Dear friend,
It has been sometime since my posting. A lot has been going on with projects work and non-work related so I’ve been out of the blogging scene. I do however still have my memories and today I am going to talk about how balance is a key part of ones life and over stepping the mark out of tune with what the universe expects of you will just land you straight back on your ass.
Confidence is a great trait to have. To be bold and stand in the face of fear through confidence is wonderful. To be positive and to have goals is also a great way to keep the mind busy, develop your own ability and maybe even give back your teachings and learning’s to others.
The problem occurs when the confidence is overdone. I remember a story from my own life. I remember going through a good 6 month straight patch of just positive thinking, goal achieving, public speaking, winning projects and doing well in almost all aspects of life.
Toward the end of my reign about month 5 or 6 something happened. One evening I was at a corporate event and for some reason I just seemed to have lost all my confidence. No matter how much reframing I did, no matter how much I reprogrammed myself I could not just not get myself back to the same state.
I took it as a bad day and thought the next day would be better. Uh uh, no way. I just seemed to have lost my power. A week or so went by and I decided to look deep within and find out what exactly was the issue. Why was this happening to me. Why was I going from winning business, deals, getting dates, doing well financially to the other extreme or being dislikes, not doing well in social settings, losing deals and so on? Why was this happening?
After a deep inner dialogue and search it came to me. What I had done was to take my confidence and so called power get to my head. I became thinking of “self” more than anything. I disregarded everyone else in transactions I would undertake both in my social life and corporate life. I had let the ego take its form to the extreme polarity.
It was a great lesson learnt and I am very grateful that this experience happened to me. Everything requires balance. Sure it is great to be confident, however the difference is I started believing that “confidence” was who I was.
I was merely taking from the conscious self. The higher self knew better. The higher self knew that I was none of these things and as the situation became volatile the higher self bitch slapped me in my face and sat me back on my ass and said. “STFU and watch what is going on around you”.
Whenever there is an unbalance in our system our bodies tell us. The message can come through a disease, a neighbour, an email, a change in weather. It can come in many shapes and forms. The key is to be aware of this.
I am as much a confident as I am a good dancer. I cannot dance, but I can learn how to. As much as I am confident I am also lets say shit scared. Now it is upto us to balance this out.
Since my adventure which was about a year ago now, I have learnt that I can remain confident and still have empathy and this for us is key. Show empathy, show your love, your genuine interest and your confidence naturally shows.
The best way to judge whether you are being confident from the heart is to ask yourself this question. “When I sleep at night do I think that I am being fake”? This was a great one for me. Now this question also answers many other questions which I will be talking about in the coming month however that is a great one. “Do the people around me really know what I am like”?
Be yourself and your true self will shine. The higher self of confidence will take flight, the conscious flight will only come in every now and again.
I have since coached several key members of society on this matter and one of them clearly comes to mind. After reading books, watching audio books, going into self for almost 4 years he came to me and said “Consigno, I know it all”. This is too easy. I know everything there is to know. 3 months later, this person bitch slapped similar to me. He ended up getting fired from his job, gained 10Kg and even considered suicide.
After several consultations he was fine but the message to get here go with the belief that you are nothing and know nothing. This was you can always learn. This way you remain within, your inner being shines. People start asking you key questions, advice. They see your true being, they want to be like you.
It is a great gift. Remember, you never know everything. When your overconfidence creeps between that border when you lose yourself, you have one of two choices. Either you learn the hard way and get bitch slapped, or if you realise in time, you pull it back in balance.
There is nothing wrong with a bitch slap however if that same bitch slap happens again within the same circumstances then as the saying goes “only a fool makes the same mistake twice”.
Learn and move on.
Peace&Love
Consigno,
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Thursday, 27 March 2008
Sunday, 25 November 2007
Are you Perfect? - Consigno On Perfection
HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF IS HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD
We are constantly struggling to “be perfect”. We abide by the law the best we can and so rightly we should. We look to be perfect at everything we do for what purpose.
This evening I challenge your thinking. I invite you see how everything was perfect to begin with, and nothing needs to be altered. I invite you to open your mind and soul to this.
The Beginning
I remember the days when I was at school and I would be asked a question by the teacher along the lines of “what is 2 x 3”. With my response being a “6, I would get a “perfect Consigno”, perfect, that is correct. Somewhere along the lines I started to think I was special and that people had an expectation of me to be perfect. This was the start of the system covering me with the invisible veil.
The above example is a true story and has happened to almost of all us. We are constantly struggling to be perfect so what happened?
The idea is installed into us. We are brought into the world having being taught that when you get things right you are “perfect” and when you get them wrong it is bad or wrong and we get a flurry of emotions pulling us from all angles.
When you look at a baby, you see someone pure. Language has not yet been installed and it constantly curious. It does whatever it wants. The baby will be not know right, wrong, perfect, special. It starts to learn these through its mother, school, TV. It begins to be conditioned into what society “expects” of him/her. What a bitch. All this time you thought you were free and now you are probably realising that you have been pre-conditioned.
You are not special
The first thing you must realise is that you are not special. The minute you see yourself as special, the unconscious separates you from all of existence. You see yourself as better or worse to others. To be unique I agree with, however to say or feel that you are special is nothing but ego and if you look deep you with find it manifesting inside.
The World is not Perfect…..WRONG
When I tell people the world is perfect people turn around and tell me how can it be when you have innocent people dying at war, hunger in Africa, aids and global warming. How can the world is perfect. Millions dying in Africa from starvation every week is not wrong. The emotions that we feel just by those bolded words about can get us in state of feeling sorry or sad about the thing and feeling that we should help in some way.
Guess what happens then. Marketing comes in and Oxfam kick in with their very cunning advertising campaigns. You see it on TV all the time. A bloated boy/girl with flies all over them. You get the commentators empathetic voice and a calm song in the background. You started feeling emotional, call the Toll free number and give your £15/$30 a month as a “token of good will” which makes you “feel good”. You see it again on your trains, shouting at you, “help me, donate”.
I say this, because I used to be one these people. I used to have a monthly direct debit coming out of my account going to some charity I had no idea about sold by someone on the street. How naïve. I was giving with the sole intent on getting something back.
The realisation only hit me after about 18 months after I originally signed up. Once I realised and my perception of the world changed, I setup my own charity where I would go lovingly with my group and feed the homeless. I would feel what it is like walking in the streets at 5am in the morning feeding the homeless in below -2 degrees. Then you truly realise the worth of touching a human soul.
I will admit it. I was also systemised. I followed the trend, always tried to fit in, until I WOKE UP. Now I choose to be in the system or out of it as I please. I enjoy both, however to think that this all that life is about is nothing but bullshit. So many of us have questions we want to answer.
So many of us decided to go back packing to china to find ourselves, when really all you have to do is have the guts to just take a look deep inside yourself. The answer is there. You will find it. It will not be easy at first, however only after the rain will you see the sunshine.
Heaven On Earth
I believe heaven is right here on earth. I experience it daily and we live in a beautiful world. Firstly you must realise that anything which creates an emotion of sorrow, neglect, happiness or anything else which makes you act or feel in a certain way has been created in you by your pre-conditioning at a young age.
This is the exact same reason that when you look newspapers and you see a headline such as “100 DIE IN WAR” or “DEBT REACHES NEW HEIGHTS” you get affected by. They are just words yet we allow ourselves to get moved and rattled by them.
What is the solution?
The first thing to do is take a look at yourself. Stop looking externally at the world and seeing the problem. The problem lies in you and guess what? For every problem there is a solution also and that lies in you too. Go deep in yourself and see what is the root cause of all these feeling you get.
HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
The world you live in is perfect
The world we live in is perfect. Nothing needs to be changed. This is a deep realisation. It’s a state of being which you can achieve through self realisation. Being in love, being peaceful in self allows you the possibility to see the world as it is.
I invite you to look at the world different.
Consigno,
We are constantly struggling to “be perfect”. We abide by the law the best we can and so rightly we should. We look to be perfect at everything we do for what purpose.
This evening I challenge your thinking. I invite you see how everything was perfect to begin with, and nothing needs to be altered. I invite you to open your mind and soul to this.
The Beginning
I remember the days when I was at school and I would be asked a question by the teacher along the lines of “what is 2 x 3”. With my response being a “6, I would get a “perfect Consigno”, perfect, that is correct. Somewhere along the lines I started to think I was special and that people had an expectation of me to be perfect. This was the start of the system covering me with the invisible veil.
The above example is a true story and has happened to almost of all us. We are constantly struggling to be perfect so what happened?
The idea is installed into us. We are brought into the world having being taught that when you get things right you are “perfect” and when you get them wrong it is bad or wrong and we get a flurry of emotions pulling us from all angles.
When you look at a baby, you see someone pure. Language has not yet been installed and it constantly curious. It does whatever it wants. The baby will be not know right, wrong, perfect, special. It starts to learn these through its mother, school, TV. It begins to be conditioned into what society “expects” of him/her. What a bitch. All this time you thought you were free and now you are probably realising that you have been pre-conditioned.
You are not special
The first thing you must realise is that you are not special. The minute you see yourself as special, the unconscious separates you from all of existence. You see yourself as better or worse to others. To be unique I agree with, however to say or feel that you are special is nothing but ego and if you look deep you with find it manifesting inside.
The World is not Perfect…..WRONG
When I tell people the world is perfect people turn around and tell me how can it be when you have innocent people dying at war, hunger in Africa, aids and global warming. How can the world is perfect. Millions dying in Africa from starvation every week is not wrong. The emotions that we feel just by those bolded words about can get us in state of feeling sorry or sad about the thing and feeling that we should help in some way.
Guess what happens then. Marketing comes in and Oxfam kick in with their very cunning advertising campaigns. You see it on TV all the time. A bloated boy/girl with flies all over them. You get the commentators empathetic voice and a calm song in the background. You started feeling emotional, call the Toll free number and give your £15/$30 a month as a “token of good will” which makes you “feel good”. You see it again on your trains, shouting at you, “help me, donate”.
I say this, because I used to be one these people. I used to have a monthly direct debit coming out of my account going to some charity I had no idea about sold by someone on the street. How naïve. I was giving with the sole intent on getting something back.
The realisation only hit me after about 18 months after I originally signed up. Once I realised and my perception of the world changed, I setup my own charity where I would go lovingly with my group and feed the homeless. I would feel what it is like walking in the streets at 5am in the morning feeding the homeless in below -2 degrees. Then you truly realise the worth of touching a human soul.
I will admit it. I was also systemised. I followed the trend, always tried to fit in, until I WOKE UP. Now I choose to be in the system or out of it as I please. I enjoy both, however to think that this all that life is about is nothing but bullshit. So many of us have questions we want to answer.
So many of us decided to go back packing to china to find ourselves, when really all you have to do is have the guts to just take a look deep inside yourself. The answer is there. You will find it. It will not be easy at first, however only after the rain will you see the sunshine.
Heaven On Earth
I believe heaven is right here on earth. I experience it daily and we live in a beautiful world. Firstly you must realise that anything which creates an emotion of sorrow, neglect, happiness or anything else which makes you act or feel in a certain way has been created in you by your pre-conditioning at a young age.
This is the exact same reason that when you look newspapers and you see a headline such as “100 DIE IN WAR” or “DEBT REACHES NEW HEIGHTS” you get affected by. They are just words yet we allow ourselves to get moved and rattled by them.
What is the solution?
The first thing to do is take a look at yourself. Stop looking externally at the world and seeing the problem. The problem lies in you and guess what? For every problem there is a solution also and that lies in you too. Go deep in yourself and see what is the root cause of all these feeling you get.
HOW YOU SEE THE WORLD IS HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF
The world you live in is perfect
The world we live in is perfect. Nothing needs to be changed. This is a deep realisation. It’s a state of being which you can achieve through self realisation. Being in love, being peaceful in self allows you the possibility to see the world as it is.
I invite you to look at the world different.
Consigno,
Tuesday, 6 November 2007
On Office Politics
It exists and that it. It comes with the title of work or job. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists.
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
She said this, he said that, he got the promotion, she slept with….Office politics.
So many people see office politics as a negative and that is simply due to the fact that the association of the word “politics” is negative to almost everything around us.
I remember at my previous job, a highly competitive sales environment there was one guy by the name of Alex( pseudo name) who had understood office politics. His method however I was not so keen on.
He knew who to speak to, how to speak to them, what to speak about, however his drawback was that he had a tendency to speak negative about individuals and slowly once he gained your trust he would turn you against them. It was a clever strategy and he later told me that his belief is that “you do whatever it takes to get to the top” so that explains his method.
Karma in Politics
I agree, do whatever it takes, however stick to your principles and understand the basic rules of karma. Do not do to someone else what you do not what done to you, and if it is ok for you to talk about someone in a not so positive light then do not be amazed or surprised when words start flying around the office about you. If you have nothing good to say, shutup!
Remember, office politics exists. It is neither good or bad, it simply exists. You can see it however you want to see it, however my take is go out there and see office politics as something that will further your career.
The game of a “career” is just that. Something for you to aim for, and excel to higher positions. Without politics, your office world would not exist.
Yes, some people do it as they are bored at work, however these people fade out in the organisation very quickly, have no significance in the organisation and usually seen by senior management to simply make up the payroll and numbers.
Remember, office politics is your friend. When people start talking about their pay or other members of staff they are not fond of, what they are really doing is testing you to see if you break under the scrutiny and spill out your secrets.
Less is More
Do not avoid it as it will come after you, instead, acknowledge it, hear the person and move on. The best thing I find to say, is “I see, or I understand….”. You are not agreeing, you are merely a listener, and a listener merely feeds back to you what you just said. Speaking less here is in your favour.
Hold your Power
The less you say, the more you hold you power. If someone keeps talking to you about a certain person or situation in the office, if your response is demonstrating empathy with limited feedback from your end you are the one in control. You hold you position of power in the conversation.
If you look around your office you will see it is the people who do little talking that have the most respect within the organisation. They are a little mystical and at the same time when they speak you can see and feel the confidence in the voice.
These people also understand office politics jus like you. The listen, feed it back to you and move onto the task at hand.
Remember, office politics is your friend. It is not negative. Reframe it to be a positive. More on reframing later.
Be the best you can be,
Consigno
Tuesday, 30 October 2007
On Integrity
So many of us go through life without living full out. You ask most old people what would be the one thing they would have done differently if they could turn back time and 9 times out of 10 the answer would be “to take more risk”.
Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.
What is it?
Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.
Why so many people lack this value?
People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.
These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.
If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.
How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.
Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.
Solution
Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?
One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.
If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.
Watch and Observe
When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.
I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.
Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.
If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.
It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?
The Assignment
For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.
Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.
Live your passion
Consigno
Risk will be discussed at a later stage, however for now I want to open you to the conversation of Integrity where so many of us fail.
What is it?
Integrity in its simplest and yet most complex form is simply “to do what you say and by when you say you are going to do it”. Simple right? Yes, but why do so many people lack this ability.
Why so many people lack this value?
People are far too attached with the fear of failure rather than be focussed truly on what they really want. They are bothered so much about letting people time on dates, meetings, work deadlines, and even as far as letting themselves down hence the reason why 99% of the world walk the earth with no real intent, no real goal or ambition as they are worried that they are going to feel hurt if they let themselves down and do not achieve their goals.
These people go on with life at most with the feeling of regret which soon turns into depression and sadness to name a few.
If you have read this article this far, you are one of the very few in seek to make yourself the best you can be and what I am going to share with you now will really open your eyes to the truth of the matter.
How many times have you set a meeting with one of your friends or colleagues and something came up and you had to cancel. I will be the first to put my hands up to this. You let people down, once then maybe they will forgive you, twice, you get them thinking. A third time and you are labelled in the society as not reliable and your level of respect drops dramatically. A man or woman for that matter without being true to his or her word is merely a shell.
Just like an eggshell that its inner content is filled. Well that is you. That is your core, your respect and everything else for that matter. You let people down and it soon becomes empty, and an empty shell is far easier to crack that any other.
Solution
Make a conscious decision today that you will be true to your word. If you are going to be there at 8am or 8pm, be there. It is far better to be there earlier than later. Think for a minute when someone lets you down?
One of the strongest values which is almost universal for all is integrity. It starts with self. It starts with making a list of your goals, desires, and ambitions and not hesitating to plan the steps needed to push forward on them. Then you make a conscious decision on what you want and by when.
If you want to lose 20lb in 12 months or make a million dollars in 6 months, write it down and commit to it. Put your heart and soul into and even when the time comes if you have put 110% into it, I promise you that you will still feel great at what you have achieved.
Watch and Observe
When you break your word, who feel the pain. No, its not the person on the other side. They have their own issues to deal with. It is you and you only. When you have no word, you have no core, and no core means you are unstable. You get stuck in conversations, you lack confidence, you compare yourself to others far too much. Your inner voice does more talking than your mouth.
I know all this because I have been there. The minute I made a conscious choice with myself to be true to my word and have integrity as one of my values my life starting changing. I got offered a job at one of the largest financial institutions in the world, I began getting invited to far more social events, met a beautiful partner, had overall success with money and had a loving relationship with my family.
Just one value did all this to me and the list is endless. Make change one step at time. Focus on integrity and move onto something else once you have mastered it.
If you have let people down in the past, now it is time to show them who you really are. I am not saying go and change, I am merely saying be who you were meant to be. That loving person, when you were a kid who loved everyone and everyone loved. The non-judgmental human being who walked the world with a smile so big that it attracted other to join in the fun.
It starts with integrity. No distractions. There will always be something else in the way. The potential to make more money, the potential for a date, the potential of having fun. Distractions on your word will always be there, it is how you deal with it that is key. This is the test. How far are you willing to go?
The Assignment
For two weeks hold your integrity. Be true to yourself and your word. Slowly but surely you will start noticing a difference. At first it will appear as a miracle that people are responding to you with a much higher level of respect. Your views on the society, friend, family and the world start changing. You become more active, you become more alive. You become who you were meant to me.
Someone asked me once what I thought hell was – I responded with “hell is merely not pursuing your dream and allowing the inner voice to eat you alive”. More on this later.
Live your passion
Consigno
Sunday, 28 October 2007
On Being the Best
So many of us are looking to be the best and it is great that we make this conscious choice. It all falls apart when we look to be the best “compared” to someone or something.
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
So many of us go through life wanting to be the best compared to one another. We have as evolution forgotton who we are to such an extent that the only way to be the best is to be better than who ever has what we are after. For example you want your body to look better than the other person in the gym. You want to have the best car, better than your neighbour, and this even extends to money.
Being the best is a personal journey and different for every single individual. It is growing your own self awareness. It is not linked to any monetary or material possession whatsoever.
What is your connection with your source I ask? The majority of people lost their connection with this the moment they started comparing themselves to one another. The then created a snowstorm of disconnection and the only way you could realise your position and status on this planet was to compare.
Next time you realise you are comparing your “being the best” to someone else it might be worth taking a seat and just watching the thought. It is useless energy being wasted with this thought. It is merely a distraction pushing you more and more away from who you are.
Who are you and the blog on comparison will be dealt with in future posts.
For now, realise that you are the best. The way you are now is not like any other human being on this planet. Realise that you are perfect in every way. If you feel you have a big nose which I did at some point drop the thought. Big compared to who?
If you feel you are fat I have always said there are two things to do about it. Realise the concept of duality and that in the world of the moment there is not fat or skinny. The other option is DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
Join a gym, go running, however when you there do not compare yourself to those who have slim size 8 bodies. This will just bring your self esteem down further.
You are perfect the way you are. There is nothing wrong or right with you. Just be. Look at your body naked in the mirror and realise the beauty given to you. It is a great gift to wake in the morning with gratitude with what you have and have not. Go and do it, it may feel weird initially; however once you go past the weirdness barrier good things start to happen.
You are beautiful,
Consigno
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